I was rereading the book of Job yesterday, preparing for a Bible Study on Wednesday and one thing became very clear to me. If your friend is going through some unspeakable tradgedy it is so much better to simply go and be with her- sit next to her in her grief. Simply do NOT open your mouth to try to explain. Don't try to explain the situation, or God or anything- you simply don't know enough. If you have to say something- say, "I love you," and leave it at that.
The best care Job's friends gave him was when they first arrived on the scene:
Job 2: 11-13- "11 When Job's three friends, Eliphaz the Temanite, Bildad the Shuhite and Zophar the Naamathite, heard about all the troubles that had come upon him, they set out from their homes and met together by agreement to go and sympathize with him and comfort him. 12 When they saw him from a distance, they could hardly recognize him; they began to weep aloud, and they tore their robes and sprinkled dust on their heads. 13 Then they sat on the ground with him for seven days and seven nights. No one said a word to him, because they saw how great his suffering was."
If it had ended there, it would have been ok. But after this, the friends speak to Job. They try to tell him what he has done wrong, they try to explain God and justice and none of it is helpful. NONE of it. In the end, they are humiliated.
Lesson learned: Sit with someone who needs you. Speak as little as possible.
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You might be interested in this online commentary "Putting God on Trial: The Biblical Book of Job" (http://www.bookofjob.org) as supplementary or background material for your study of the Book of Job. It is not a sin for individuals to question God, to demand answers from God. There is a time and a place for such things. It is certainly wise for friends to let those individual work through their grief. This book is written by a Canadian criminal defense lawyer, now a Crown prosecutor, and it explores the legal and moral dynamics of the Book of Job with particular emphasis on the distinction between causal responsibility and moral blameworthiness embedded in Job’s Oath of Innocence. It is highly praised by Job scholars (Clines, Janzen, Habel) and the Review of Biblical Literature, all of whose reviews are on the website. The author is an evangelical Christian, denominationally Anglican. He is also the Canadian Director for the Mortimer J. Adler Centre for the Study of the Great Ideas, a Chicago-based think tank.
Robert Sutherland
PS. I can send you a copy of the manuscript if you wish.
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